Happy Birthday Mummy

Mummy's birthday is around the corner and I plan to bring her out for a nice dinner tonight and I got her a Coach handbag as her present as well.

Happy birthday mummy! We love you very much!

分手时，不要问

Dedicate给我那刚刚分手的好朋友，妳要坚强一点。
他既然离开了妳，那妳不要再去缠他了。

分手时，沉默是最好的问题，最圆满的答案。
当一段恋爱没有修成正果的时候，分手是难免的。

谁不是痛过几次后，哭过几次后，才找到最后的爱。（虽然我上几次都没哭过）
分手是必经的，但有些问题可以不必问。

不要问： 为什么要分手？
因为无论答案是什么，都是妳难以接受的原因。

不要问： 你有没有爱过我？
爱过又如何？未爱过又如何？总之现在这一刻就不爱。

不要问： 我做错了些什么？
爱不是讲什么对错，而是讲感觉。相爱是谈情，不是讲理。
当爱的感觉已不存在了，对和错又可以挽回什么呢？

不要问： 我有什么不好，她有什么好？我有什么比不上她呢？
何必逼着对方再一次的侮辱妳，伤害妳的自尊呢？

不要问： 难道你不记得我们以前快乐的日子吗？
当他决定要离开妳的时候，以前的事已经对他不重要了。
他要的是现在的快乐，和将来的快乐。

不要问： 不如我们重新来过，我改。好吗？
这个哀求只会另对方觉妳更可怜，更卑微。

不要问： 那我们可不可以做朋友？
这样会拖泥带水，对方只会感到厌倦。

女人心疼男人的种种方式

当你愛上一個男子，千万別去想自己是不是应该矜持一点。愛他就告诉他，有时候男人也很爱虚荣，你的表白会让他的自信达到顶点。

当你已经不愛他了，那么也用最直接的方式告诉他。別去考虑他会不会脆弱，男人的自尊远比伤痛重要。

当你們已经相愛，那么就要对他信任，有什么想法就告訴他，不管他支持不支持。任何一個男子都希望他的女人依靠他。

在他的朋友面前，要給他十足的地位。面子对男子來说比什么都重要，不要介意在人前当個小女人，要知道小女人都是男人宠出來的。

他在打遊戏的时候，不论你有多急的事情，也不要直接去关他的电脑。最好是搂着他，在他耳边轻轻的细语。因为男人对遊戏的着迷胜过你看一部精彩的肥皂剧。

男人每个月也有那几天，跟女人差不多，心情无故低落。这个时候不要问他怎么了，只要陪在他身边，做好你自己。

他和朋友出去喝酒、打牌，你不要问他为什么不带你一块前往。男人都愿意做风筝，只要线还在你手里，那么就放他去飞吧。

男人都很懶很笨，尽管他愛你，但是不想费尽心思讨好你，你所能做的就是在适当的时候给他一个明示。男人有时候需要女人给他強而有力的当头一棒。

男人不管他外表有多強大，但是骨子里都还是一个孩子。他在任性的时候不要对他大吼大叫，这对他起不了作用。最有效的办法是陪他一起疯。等他平静后轻轻的告诉他你很爱他。

男人都是不肯认错的，在他知道错的时候给他一個台阶台下，他会知恩图报的。

体谅一个男人，那就是把他当成你的愛人、情人、哥哥、朋友、父亲、孩子。愛他，不要给他负担，给他自由，给自己自由。

做女人要知道什么时候该进，什么时候该退。什么时候该挡在他的前面，什么时候该躲在他身后。把他当成你自己一样去爱护，成全了他的幸福，他才会成全你的幸福。

暧昧，你懂吗？

这是个曖昧橫行的年代。

感情出现的第三个种类。

比友情深但却比愛情浅。

游走于二者的边缘。

这就是曖昧。

是什么时候开始本应该是明明朗朗的愛情成了一場麓战？

谁先动心谁就满盘皆输，万劫不复。

是谁把简单复杂化？

其实说穿了。。。

曖昧，是比好朋友再亲一点但比情人远一点。

曖昧，是你会常常在 msn 等他上线，当他几天沒有上线你就会有些担心。

曖昧，是每天大家都会聊 msn，会互传手机短讯，还可能会无规律地偶然约会。

曖昧，是你会时不时去他的 blog 或 facebook 看看有沒有更新，而且你会留意字里行间他对你有沒有什么暗示。

曖昧，是有感觉然而这种感觉不足以叫你切切实实地发展一段正式的关系。

曖昧，是明白人生有太多的无奈，现实有太多的限制。你知道沒有可能但又捨不得放手。

曖昧，是有进一步的冲动，却沒有进一步的勇氣。

曖昧，是他不是你的情人但似乎他比你的情人更关心你和了解你。

曖昧，是你会编一条围巾給他但大家从沒有开始过。

曖昧，是虽然他不是你的情人但他却会对你说：“你对我是十分重要的”。

曖昧，是你感冒时有一個会在晚上打电话來特意提醒你服药叫你盖好被子早点睡的普通朋友。

曖昧，是可以推脫責任的游戏，沒有承诺就无需负责。

曖昧，是勇敢者的游戏，無畏的人才能在角逐中进退自如。

曖昧，是每当他提及他的另一半時你會万箭穿心。

曖昧，是为了逃避背叛的罪恶感。

曖昧，是甜津津又同時酸溜溜的往往从未开始已叫人不安患得患失。

曖昧，是別人以为你们在搞地下情時你会马上否认，但却沾沾自喜。

曖昧，是別人问你们是否恋爱中你会马上否认，可是心里却万般的希望确是如此。

曖昧，是常常挣扎表不表白，你怕表白之后你既得不到一个情人却又失去了一个知心好友。

曖昧，是见到时他你会心跳，見不到他时你会挂念他。

曖昧，是两个人都会互相猜想他是不是已经暗示了什么? 我是不是自作多情?

曖昧，是你很想多走一步但又怕会吓怕了他，你会很小心流露自己的感情。

曖昧，是除了情人节之外，其他的节日大家都可以交换礼物而不感到尴尬。

曖昧，是兩个人沒有承诺过什么，但虽然如此你愿意付出的比有承諾的情侶更多。沒有責任但你却很渴望去承担，不问回报。

曖昧，是你看了這篇文章后，心里马上就会想到的那个人是不是?

Mind Games That Women Play

"Do you think I look fat in this dress?"

When a woman asks you this, you're doomed. No matter what you say, it will be the wrong answer. She already knows she looks fat or she wouldn't be asking you the question in the first place.

But if you fib and tell her that she looks skinny, she knows it's not the truth and she'll punish you not only for lying to her, but also for noticing that she's been packing on the pounds. She might even break into tears because, "You don't love me for who I am."

Either way, you're fucked.

So why do women indulge in these silly mind games?

Well, for one thing, they're women. And women think and react with their emotions, or at least more than men do in general. But it's really about testing us. And tests are ultimately all about control of the relationship.

The typical guy is usually clueless about the mind games women play. But play them they will, so you'd better be aware of what's going on.

Let's take a look at three different stages - Meeting, Dating and Relationship to see what kinds of games the typical female plays.

1 - The MEETING STAGE

Sexy clothes - She wears provocative clothing and then gets mad when you check her out.

What's her mind game?: No logic here at all. Of course men are going to look and she knows it. And when they do, she castigates them for their normal and natural interest.

Shallow initial contact - She'll come on to you, flirt, even act sexually suggestive with absolutely no intention of going on a date or getting involved.

What's her mind game?: She wants to get a rise out of you to assure herself that she's still attractive to the men. Surprisingly, a lot of attached women play this game.

No phone call - She'll give out her number with no intention of dating you. Or she'll take your number and never call you.

What's her mind game?: This is another bid for power. She just wants to reassure herself that she can control men with her sexuality.

Hard to get - She turns you down for a date or doesn't return your call, even if she's interested in going out with you.

What's her mind game?: Sometimes this is simply a power play and sometimes what she wants is for you to chase her, to determine how desperate you are for sex. If you bite, then she knows she's totally in control of the relationship and you'll forever jump to the crack of her whip.

On to the Dating Stage, where things can potentially get worse.

2 - THE DATING STAGE

Broken dates - She breaks your date at the last minute or doesn't show up at all without a word of apology.

What's her mind game?: She knows that the one being pursued controls the course of the relationship and she wants to ensure that you dance to her tune early on. Many women play this game to see how desperate a man is. If you roll over and puppy-dog it at this point, you might as well just put a collar around your neck.

Waiting time - She's late or not ready when you pick her up for a date. Furthermore, this is a recurring issue.

What's her mind game?: She's trying to figure out how much she can get away with. She wants to be the one calling the shots; she wants you to run after her and wonder if she's really interested in you. Furthermore, if she makes you wait for her, she sends a clear signal that she values her time more than she does yours.

Expensive dates - She wants to go to the most expensive restaurant, the most exclusive club, the hottest play and expects you to fund the whole thing without a whimper.

What's her mind game?: She's aware that you know that if you don't fork over the cash, you won't have a prayer of getting her into bed. To make matters worse, she might even do this if she has unequivocally no intention of having sex with you. Woe to you if you've already proven to her that you're desperate for sex and your credit card is going to be smoking.

No sex - She gets you hot and bothered and then backs off, or otherwise restricts access to sex.

What's her mind game?: This is a perfect example of manipulation and exultation of her sexual power over you, plain and simple. She might also play this game to extract more cash from your wallet (see previous point).

Serial flirt - She flirts with other men in front of you.

What's her mind game?: What she's doing is testing to see how interested you are and underscoring the fact that she's sexually desirable to other men (so you'd better toe the line bro).

Inconsistent wants - She says one thing, then does another. For example, she'll tell you that it doesn't matter where the two of you go or what you do, and then pout all night when you make the "wrong" choice.

What's her mind game?: She wants to be the one finding faults with you, and not the other way around. Of course, there's no way for you to know what the "right" choices are.

And for the finale, the games women play when you're settling in.

3 - THE RELATIONSHIP STAGE

Selfish ways - She acts any way she pleases to see if you'll tolerate her bad behavior or pushes you around to see if you'll stand up to her.

What's her mind game?: She's testing to see how "much of a man" you are (how much control she has over you), as well as arming herself with ammunition for future arguments, in case you get mad and fly into a rage.

Mind reading - She expects you to read her mind. This includes her sexual desires, her favorite restaurants, what happened to her during the day, and every other little trivial thing.

What's her mind game?: She wants to see if you care. She wants to know that you understand her feelings and listen to her. You are somehow supposed to magically guess exactly what she's thinking, what she wants and how she wants it without her having to say a word. When, naturally, you fail to "just know," she punishes you (often by cutting off sex).

Comparison to others - She compares you to her friends' boyfriends.

What's her mind game?: Women are always looking to feather their nests. If she finds a better deal, she'll toss you aside and move on to her next victim...uh, boyfriend.

Crazy antics - She throws tantrums and generally acts unpleasant and bitchy.

What's her mind game?: She wants to know just how much crap you'll put up with.

Inconsistent wants - She indulges in contradictory thinking. She wants a manly man who takes charge, but who has metrosexual traits and loves watching romantic comedies.

What's her mind game?: She tells you that she wants you to show more emotion, but when you do, she brands you as "weak." This is yet another example of her keeping the upper hand in the relationship, by making you feel like she can be the one dumping you if you're not exactly what she wants.