Wake Up My Dear Friends

A friend of ours (2 actually) has been involved in an affair with a married man and although it has been going on for quite some time and we all knew about it, we try to keep things down because they're both our friends. Well, although we know its really none of our business to comment anything but sometimes its really hard for a person to cover things up especially when people start noticing and start asking questions.

Now, problem is when too many people knows about it and start asking questions, somehow sooner or later the truth is gonna get out and when it does, things are gonna get ugly and lots of people are gonna get hurt.

According to Dr. Phil, having an affair with a married man is bound to spell doom in the long run eventually. Here's what he said:

It's time to move forward.
If you're putting your life on hold for a married man, he's stolen not only your heart - he's stolen your brain!

No matter how you justify it, you are attacking his family unit.
Even he is separated from his wife, that is their business and you are a threat to their marriage. You aren't welcome and you don't belong.

You may feel that he's your soul mate, but think again.
A real soul mate would not set you on the sidelines. He wouldn't allow it, let alone entice it.

Keep in mind that you only know what he tells you.
You already know that he's a liar because he's living a lie with his wife and children. How can you be sure whether you're the only "other women" he has? Entertain the possibility that he is lying to you, and you are being used.

Think of his wife.
Is it fair to her? She's been married with him for however many years, cleaned up after him when he's sick, raised children with him, sacrificed with him, dealt with the 'damn dailies', then you come in at the 11th hour and provide a contrast to that that's new and exciting and fun. You are intruding upon her turf. You are a trespasser. It is no different than being a thief at night. It is no different than breaking into their house and stealing things.

Even if your married man decided to leave his wife and family for you, that doesn't gurantee success.
Relationships born out of affairs survive less then 5 percent of the time. If he'll do it with you, he'll do it to you. If he's living this deception with you today, how could you ever trust him if you did get in to a legitimate relationship with him?

Break off the relationship today.
You'll hurt, you'll feel broken hearted but you'll be better off. Take some time to get really clear with yourself about who you are and what you want. The most important relationship you'll ever have in this world is the one you have yourself. And eventually, you'll fall in love again - with someone who's willing to make you first in his life.

Wake up my dear friends, karma is a bitch. Eventually it'll get back at us one fine day without us realizing it. Karma always has its way at getting back at a person. Deep down in your heart, you know it better then anyone it's not going be a happy ending and you'll eventually go back to where you started off with nothing.

Having a fling with another man when you're both not married is one thing, but getting yourself attached to a married man is low. Don't trash yourself like that and have others to lose respect for you too. Give yourself some respect and dignity, and you'll be a better person eventually. Well, but again its your call.

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